The last few months have been a crazy rollercoaster of emotions for me. I know it has been for everyone during lockdown. One minute I’m happy, loving life and another minute I’m not looking after myself and starting and finishing work late everyday. Being on placement too and working a full time job during lockdown, still learning new things everyday, has definitely had its challenges. I’ve had to learn how to be more independent, work on my own without all my colleagues around and really understand how crucial it is to put yourself first. A few weeks ago I really had got to a point where I just had to stop and re-evaluate my work, life balance. I was just working so hard, trying to do everything perfectly and ultimately just burning myself out. Since then I’ve had a good few weeks of work, with a fresh mind set and hope that this set back is behind me. So, I thought a lot of you might have been having similar situations and that I would share how I refreshed my mind set and got over my set back.
Set back’s are one of the hardest things for anyone to overcome, this could be in private life or in at work, but they are even harder when you’re a perfectionist and you want everything to be perfect. However, the fact of life is that nothing can ever be perfect, there’s always going to be things that are out of your control, things that happen that are not ideal and not how you planned. But I’m really learning now that it’s not about what the set back was but it’s about how you’re going to move forward from it.
1. ADDRESS THE SET BACK
This might seem really obvious but just taking a step back to address the set back and what’s happen just helps you put some objective clarity on everything. For me I just had to step back from work, understand why I was feeling so burnt out and what things were causing me to feel so stressed. So then when I went back I could have fresh eyes and try to create a new routine for myself, to stop me from getting burnt out again.
2. TAKE SOME TIME OUT
This could be taking some holiday off work to have a mini break away or to just spend time with friends and family. Just whatever takes you out of your normal day to day environment, where you can wind down and relax. Then you can really just switch your head off from the situation and spend time with people you love. I know that always makes me feel so much better.
3. TALK TO SOMEONE
When you’ve had a setback I can guarantee that someone you know had had a similar one too, at some point. They can always give you the best advice and tips of how they got over it. Also, there’s so many articles online that can really help, sometimes all you need is to talk over the situation, then park it and move on.
4. BE KIND TO YOURSELF
This is something I’m still working on, but the best way I try to think about it is only ever talk to yourself like you would to a friend. For example if you’ve been trying to loose weight and had a set back, where you’ve not lost any for a while, you would never tell your friend you still look fat and are a failure. So don’t ever tell yourself that. Be kind and understanding with yourself. We’re all humans, we make mistakes and we are even better at moving on.
5. MOVING ON
This is the best and the hardest part, as you now have to face the situation again. It could be going back to work, trying to get a friendship back on track or seeing your partner that you’ve been having time out with. Whatever it is it’s time to try to try it again. The best way I did this was to create a different work environment for myself and be strict. Try to create a different feeing when I opened my laptop and not the feeling of dread I had before. It’s all about moving on and try to forget what happened before and start a fresh, as holding onto things is always heavier than you think.