To be honest with you all, I’m far from being this amazing happy person that’s constantly feeling positive about her life and her self. I’m not trying to stay that I don’t ever get those days when everything about myself is just not working for me, and life is anything but spectacular. However, these days and these feelings are not unique to me or you, because were all human and we all have days when things just don’t go right, and life is just being a bit of a general bitch. There’s a quote that says “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans” and I think that it really just sums up this crazy thing called life, that we all live in.
Personally, the whole point of writing this post, is for me to be able to share some of my tips on trying to be a positive and happy person, and hopefully I will be able to help some one out there who is not having the greatest of times at the moment, or just needs a bit of encouragement to face the next couple of days. I know myself, that life is anything but easy and things seem to be so unfair and so unexplained, but the fact of it is, that were never certain about life, and nothing is ever definite. You see, we never know what’s going to happen tomorrow or the next day, it may be something really, amazingly positive, or it could be something that’s definitely quite the opposite. But we have to live life through all that, and just stay strong.
The reason why I feel so strongly about this topic, is the fact of how society seems to be unfolding. How teenage girls and boys are feeling the need to self harm and injure themselves because of their insecurities or something that someone might have said to them. It seems so unfair that someone should harm themselves in a reaction to someone’s stupid comment. No one is born with low confidence, it decreases over time and situations, and most of all what comes out of people’s mouth’s. I’m not saying, that I’ve not ever said anything horrible or spiteful to someone, but I would never go as far as to say to someone “to go kill themselves” or “to go die” because for me, that crosses the line. Not everyone’s going to get on and people will fall out and say hurtful things to each other, but we should never go as far as to tell someone to risk their lives because of it. Luckily, I’ve never had either of those phrases said to me, but I know of a few people that have not only had it said to them, but people that are also the sayers of those phrases.
Another reason that I feel so strongly about this, is because I’m a girl and I know that when your going through the stage of growing up and becoming a woman, your hormones and emotions are all over the place. You get days when you feel down for no reason what so ever, and days when you just want to cry, even though there’s nothing to cry about. Obviously, I don’t know about this stage for boys because I’m not one, but all I can say is that everyone at that age feels the same. You’re finding yourself and becoming an adult. You’re emotional and definitely a bit confused. But that’s alright, and you will come out of that stage and know that those feelings are not forever and that you can be a happy person even though your growing up and turning into an adult. Being 15, nearly 16, I’m around half way through this stage, and I’m learning to cope with how I can feel all over the place and how I will have days that are not completely amazing. But I think it’s key to think of certain things and do certain things in life, in order to keep your self happy.
So here’s a few things that I like to think about and do to keep myself happy.
Set Goals for yourself
Set goals for yourself in work or generally in life that encourage you to push yourself. This will enable you to learn and develop as a person, and you will also feel so happy and proud of yourself when you achieve each of those goals.
If you’ve hit one of your goals or you got an A or an A* in a subject at school, then reward yourself with something. That could be a little present to yourself, or one night of complete food indulgence. Where you just pig out and eat chocolate, cake, sweets, ice cream, and just chill out and enjoy yourself.
Try and drink plenty of water
A while ago, I was on a mission to drink more water. It was mainly because I was getting seriously de-hydrated during the day and I needed to force myself to drink more. During this time period, I noticed so many positive side effects of drinking more water; I felt more energetic and awake during the day, my skin looked a lot better, and most of all I felt so much happier and positive in myself and about life. Water really is a magical thing, and every human needs it in their life.
Do not worry about what other people think
The key to happiness is to not worry about what other people of you, and to just ignore them. I know it’s hard because everyone looks for acceptance and want’s to be liked, but you need to rise above other people’s opinion’s.
Get yourself in order
Organise your life and know exactly what you need to do and when you need to do it. I’m personally really bad at getting stressed out over feeling over-whelmed about what I have and need to do. If you organise your life you will feel in control and will feel a lot more calm.
Surround yourself with amazing people
You will feel so much better if you surround yourself with people who are positive and that really love you for who you are. No one want to be friends with people who are negative and horrible to them.
The key to stay happy and be positive is not simple and it takes time to feel that you are happy with yourself and who you are. I’m going to be doing a post series about body confidence in the next couple of months which I think will really relate to this post. I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and feel like this post has helped you in someway.